An estimated 58 million U.S. households, nearly one in four, now are providing care to a relative or friend aged 50 or older or have provided care during the previous 12 months. So says a recent survey by the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP. Other surveys suggest that today’s Baby Boomers likely will spend more years caring for a parent than for their own children. 
 
If you’re 40 or older, you may be among this new generation of caregivers, which is dedicating enormous time, energy and spirit to ensure that their aging parents are safe and secure, and that their financial resources continue to provide dignity and quality of life during their sunset years. And chances are you know firsthand the meaning of the term “Sandwich Generation,” used to describe the growing number of adult children feeling squeezed between the needs of an aging parent, and the demands of their own children, spouses and careers. 
 
The book provides practical tools on how to initiate a conversation with your parents before you see warning signs about their ability to manage finances; then provides a thorough discussion about the “Four P’s” – People, Property, Programs, and Plans – and what you need to know about each in order to be an effective financial caregiver to your parents. Also included, are a comprehensive estate organizer, as well as a memorial planner.
 
 
 

What does it really mean to honor your aging parents—especially when caregiving feels overwhelming?

If you’re helping an elderly parent with finances, healthcare, or day-to-day needs, you already know that caregiving isn’t just about tasks. It’s about values. It’s about navigating guilt, boundaries, love, and legacy—all while holding your own life together.

In The Family Caregiver’s Code of Honor, financial eldercare expert David W. Russell offers a powerful and practical guide for adult children caring for aging parents. Rooted in timeless moral principles and informed by faith, culture, and family experience, this book helps caregivers stay grounded in what truly matters.

Inside, you’ll discover:

  • A 12-part code of honor to guide caregiving decisions

  • Wisdom drawn from religion, philosophy, and cultural traditions

  • Real-life examples and practical applications

  • Tools for defining roles, setting limits, and making ethical choices

Whether you’re just starting the journey or deep in the mess of elder care, this book offers clarity, courage, and a sense of purpose.

Honor your parents. Preserve your sanity. Live with no regrets.

Let’s be honest: caregiving isn’t all scented candles and sacred duty. Sometimes it’s just… exhausting.

If you’ve ever helped your aging parent with finances, medical care, or “what is that smell,” you know that honoring your parents in today’s world is complicated. There’s love, yes. But there’s also guilt, resentment, old wounds, and questionable decisions involving reverse mortgages or expired mayonnaise.

In Honoring Your Parents Without Losing Your Mind, financial eldercare advisor David W. Russell takes a slightly irreverent, deeply human look at what it really means to “honor your father and mother” in the 21st century. Think less sermon, more survival guide—with wisdom, wit, and a healthy dose of dry humor.

Inside, you’ll find:

  • A 12-part Caregiver’s Code of Honor that’s equal parts moral compass and coping strategy

  • Real-life stories that are honest, funny, and sometimes painfully familiar

  • A fresh look at honor through religion, philosophy, and cultural traditions (plus Samurai!)

  • Encouragement for anyone stuck between doing the right thing… and screaming into a pillow

  • A family-friendly questionnaire to clarify roles, reduce guilt, and head off chaos

This isn’t your grandma’s caregiving manual. But it is the one Eileen wishes she had when her mom moved in and everything went sideways.

Because honoring your parents doesn’t mean losing your mind—or your sense of humor.